Why Do Men Cheat?!

It seems that the latest trend is for men to go outside their marriages/relationships, where the grass is clearly greener, to have affairs. And quite a few of those affairs have resulted in children being born. Why are boys so dumb? Do they think they we won’t find out? We ALWAYS find out. Yes, Maria, even 10 years later. Now that the shit has hit the fan, what do you do? For me personally, it’s a deal breaker. I think I’d probably do it Elin-style. Get a 9 iron and pummel his ass in the driveway then take the money and run. Her momma didn’t raise no fool.

But that’s just the beginning. What are the long-term effects of men behaving badly? Aside from the obvious public humiliation and probable dissolution of marriage, there are tremendous spiritual consequences; both now and after you die. Yes, I said after you die. Let’s discuss, kids.

When your soul has finally left your body, from my understanding, you go into something called “soul review”. This is where every thought, word and deed that you have ever had is reviewed. Awww, hell! Yes, I said e-v-e-r-y. Both good & bad. Every time you cussed someone out. Every time you have bad thoughts about your coworkers. Every time you cheated or lied. It all goes under the spiritual microscope. And here’s the kicker – You will feel all the pain you have caused other people. You will feel the devastation your family felt when you lied to them. You will feel the pain of the girl you teased in high school when you were 17. You will feel the hurt your kids felt when you hit them. And yes, Tiger & Arnold will feel the pain that they have caused. Even the indirect pain they have caused people on the sidelines in the situation. This is how our soul grows and progresses so we do better next time. Then there is karma that is assigned so you can rectify the wrong from this life in your next one. It’s soul evolution. Now before you damn yourself to Hell, you also feel the joy you have brought to people’s lives and the ripple effect that caused. Even the smallest gestures become golden sparkles in your soul.

I’m not here to debate God, Heaven or reincarnation. So all of the super-religious take a breath! And I can't give you an answer on why men cheat. What I do need for you to know, is that your soul pays for your human actions. Please, please, pa-leeez remember that. I feel so fortunate that another wise old broad shared that information with me while I was a young not-so-wise woman. I could fix what I was doing wrong. What’s “O” say? When you know better, you do better.

Now you know better. So go be better.

♥old wise woman

Value of a woman...

Recently, I have been noticing how women value themselves. As wives, significant others, mothers, sisters, daughters, employees. Every moment of every day we negotiate our worth on this bat-shit crazy planet. In the age of Oprah, it's nice to say that we are being true to our 'authentic' self. Sounds nice when it comes out of her mouth. On tv. But do you actually believe it?

I have seen women in my family try to find their worth through the so-called love of a man/boy. Time & time again, he leaves, cheats, hits, etc. and there you are with a broken soul and a couple of kids to raise by yourself. Why would he think you're priceless if you put up with the bullshit because he's probably the best you will ever get. Really? Women that jump from one man to another (same basic loser just in a different package) because they are afraid of being alone or that no one will love them. Hmmm...maybe because you don't love/value yourself? It's called soul-love sweetheart. Google it.

Every time we put ourselves down because we're not smart/pretty/thin/whatever enough, we are literally pissing on the graves of our great-grandmothers' who endured being a 2nd class citizen so we wouldn't have to. I'd like to think that we have carried over some wisdom from past lives; hard lessons learned. We have the right to vote. Our great-gma's didn't. We have jobs, run businesses, raise babies on our own, buy real estate, fix cars, etc. -- all things that would have been scandalous 200 years ago. We are supposed to be an evolving species. But are we? Right now, a woman is being beaten and told she is worthless. Right now, a woman is trading sex for drugs. Right NOW, a teenage girl is having a baby so she will have somebody that loves her. Because none of them value themselves.

I'm not here trying to act like I have it all together. I don't. It took me a long time to come to this 'not-so-crazy' place within me. It wasn't until I stopped believing all the lies that insecure people were barfing at me and started listening to my intuition and hearing what my soul was telling me. I have worth. I am important. I have a specific purpose for this time around that only I can fulfill. And my soul is beautiful.

So on this Mother's Day, no abuse. No hitting, no 'stupid bitch' name-calling, no telling yourself that you don't deserve it or he's the best you can get. YOU ARE the best you can get. Now, go on with your fine ass and do something spectacular!

You are worth it:)

♥old wise woman